#Letsbehonest

Soooooo, 'let's be frank', and no ladies and gentleman I'm not quite referring to that skin freshening, body cleaning, money making body scrub which 'frankly' seems all the #rage at the moment. Instead I'd like to delve deeper into why us ladies feel the need to abhorrently fill our good ol' camera rolls with countless #selfies only to choose the 'perfect' one to under go a fulfilling make over from our good friend, and quite astonishing makeup artist 'whitagram'..... Now now, I'm not choosing to be patronising about this whole #instalove scenario, as that in turn would make me about as hypocritical as all of those lovely boys and girls out there whom feel they are far too superior to follow a 'selfie lover' or #hashtag enthusiast (lest we forgot those keyboard warriors who like to remind us of their disdain). Instead I'd like to shed some light as to why us beautiful women - even without the help of my personal favourite Valencia, choose to post away the finer moments of our camera rolls, and invite limitless worshiper's to share a moment and small portion of a life condensed into a 'pretty picture' 1. Long gone are the days of meeting someone for the first time at a pub or a bar...... C'mon guys! Why would we venture out on a cold winters night to meet the guy or gal of your dreams when you could simply hit the follow button - and like your new potential partners well contrasted, blemish free selfie they took before going to work on a Saturday morning .... I mean let's not fool ourselves here - arguable, (and I'm sure many of you would argue) having some #beautiful #bestoftheday #nomakeup #fitso worthy images on your Instagram could nowadays be the difference between one day posting your very own wedding image, or conversely living #alone forever. 2. Revenge via Instagram Boy am I in no position to preach about the post break - up insta battles you and your ex will probably partake in.... But if my experience can shed some light - it ain't worth it guys.... Ladies; you'll feel the need to up your selfie game and you'll probably post some quotes which specify "Be careful who you make memories with, those things can last a life time" Or something beautiful by F Scott Fitzgerald like; " there are all types of love in this world but never the same love twice" REFRAIN..... Lord knows we have all been there (me recently included) but The Lord also knows that our ex's do not need to know that we care so much as to share with our loyal followers - and sadly new potential partners that we are struggling to the extent of wasting that one (tolerable) Instagram post a day on someone no longer relevant in your momentarily captured social networking life, let alone the real thang. As for any guys or ex's reading this are concerned.. First hand experience tells me... You will go out and follow all those girls your ex's forbid you interacting with, (mainly just so she would see) and then probably ten more, in the hope that you can enjoy the freedom on 'getting around' (figuratively and non figuratively) a new girl with the intention of having her over for some meaningless rebound .... You know what. Thus, hence, therefore .... Whatever it is your English teacher taught you to reiterate your contention.... My advice to the ladies is to unfollow him, the only thing worse then seeing him out with another girl - is seeing him instantaneously follow 40 others... Post your best selfie, have a cup of tea and enjoy the moments of your life usually captured and uploaded for yourself and by yourself...... Don't let that bastard or any other bastards for that matter share anymore of YOUR moments ever again - even if they are simply virtual.. So where am I going with all of this? I'm going or trying to go to a place where Instagram doesn't portray all of the goods of someone's life, nor can it have the power to define someone. I'm all for Instagram, and my god I'm all for a selfie, but when did it happen that if 'Steph Claire smith' gave you a follow back your life had significantly become more meaningful and worth living. I want to see a world where a girl can take her best bloody photo - selfie or not and share it without feeling although she's posted 'way to many times today' - who really gives a damn!!!! I feel the insta world is becoming way too political for a simple app that is suppose to bring joy and create a wall of amazing memories. Soooooo people of the world - forget the angst associated with your second selfie of the day, and get rid of all those negative 'followers' I'm your life (on and off Instagram) especially any ex's, hashtag until your hearts content .... But in the process don't forget that your moments are your moments, and it's entirely in your hands how many or little of those you dare to share. Until then my lovely little readers... Have a beautiful insta filled and free week #love