LESSON CAREFULLY!

The truth is, New Years are irrelevant, as are fake friends, bad hair cuts, ex boyfriends,your first kiss, toothpaste brands and … instagram followers #sorryguys.With the New Year, I thought it was the perfect time to rip out a fresh awesome, sparkling, frankly genius new blog (genius spoken with invisible inverted commas … of course) and yet Jan first rolled along and I had absolutely nada, zilch, zero… nothing.

Hey, that wasn’t because the past year for me hadn’t been inspiring, no, quite the contrary, I’ve cried, yelled, broke up, dated, fell (too many embarrassing times to detail) and even rolled on the floor laughing (and that’s not even figuratively spoken). I don’t know about you guys, but my 2k17 was IN… teresting, and that’s just to say the least.

Speaking of which, good old mum asked my sister and I a couple of days ago to tell her the most interesting things that we learnt last year… As a 20 year old girl I naturally rolled my eyes and responded with “take an awesome selfie mum, duh” as you do when you’re running late for lunch with the girls and rather not get sentimental with your prying mother…. Her question did however linger eagerly on my mind (questions from your mum always somehow seem to do that) what is it that I had learnt? If anything at all.

After scrubbing out, re writing, scribbling, rewriting, drawing some flowers, birds, some 3D squares and a time machine (I have a rather short attention span…) These are the 5 things, I, well eventually came up with…

1. DON’T TAKE YOURSELF TOO SERIOUSLY

Guys, its ok to laugh at yourself! I do every single day. I laugh at my face in the mirror when I’m squeezing a pimple, I laugh at my own jokes and majority of the time I laugh at myself when no one else thinks I’m funny…. (Although I am… very, very funny).

Seriously though, if you can’t appreciate your own hilarity once in a while, you cannot expect anyone else to either.

Last year taught me, that life is too short, simple and sweet; and it you spend it critiquing yourself for every single blunder, trip, fall and scab; you’ll never reach inner joy and personal happiness.

Ladies and gentlemen, you’re funny as hell.

2. DON’T RELY ON ANYONE BUT YOURSELF FOR PERSONAL FULFILMENT & JOY.

This was by far the biggest lesson I learnt last year, by a country mile! Brutal experience taught me first hand that you, yourself should be the sole reason for your attitude, happiness and sadness. Why the hell do we place something so important into somebody else’s hands?

Guys and gals, all too often we place how we feel on the text we finally receive from the dude we like – but up until that point were left feeling miserable? Hell to the no. Not anymore anyway. True happiness comes from within, anything else should act as an added bonus … if we can’t be happy, by, for and with ourselves, it is unlikely we will ever be content with another person.

3. TIME HEALS EVERYTHING, GIVE THE TIME SOME TIME

Trust me on this one. We have all basked in our own personal grief at one point or another, and wailed whilst thinking “it’s never going to get better than this”… but oh it does.

Time has a magical way of making something so relevant in one moment, rather irrelevant in the next. Things are never as bad as they seem, and our good buddy time helps us overcome any obstacle that burdens the path we wish to tread.

At the end of the day, life moves on, whether you’re on the couch curled up feeling sorry for yourself; or kicking ass and working hard, life doesn’t stop for you, ever, so why the hell stop amidst it.

4. DO ONE THING THAT SCARES YOU… EVERY DAY

Today, posting this blog for the world to critique, judge, love, hate, laugh at, bully me with, or simply ‘close window’ on… is mine.

Last year I spent far too long wrapped up inside my own soft comfortable zone, prepared to achieve nothing in the hopes of enduring nothing. This attitude will get you nowhere… fast. Sometimes life IS about stuffing up, over and over and over and over again in order to finally land on you’re ‘feat’. (Yes, pun intended).

I truly believe that if it scares you, it is also likely to grow you. Life is about progression, and if we don’t allow ourselves to be scared once in a while we will always remain mediocre.

5. Last but certainly not least…. ENJOY THE LITTLE THINGS.

Last year I learnt that contentment and joy isn’t always about the things that make every other person super happy. Love and fulfillment is different for every single one of us. For me it’s not about having the best style in Melbourne, I love when I make a ripper cup of tea. It’s not about having the ‘coolest’ friends, I love how the sky radiates on a warm summers night. It’s not about having bucket loads of money, I prefer the ocean.

Although for the last entire sentence, I made this whole thing about myself (similar too my instagram full of selfies), I hope you catch my drift. Happiness comes from being able to appreciate the smallest things in our lives and allowing THAT stuff to warm our soul. The small things will never go away. Thus, neither will your happiness.

So au revoir, Arrivedece and sayonara 2017 and aloha 2k18.

I don’t know about you guys, but I’m totally excited to see where this year takes me, drowns me, laughs at me, and leaves me; and I vow to consolidate my old lessons and get out there making some new ones too.

SO the next time your mum asks you some ‘annoying’ question, maybe take a little time to write down your response, you never know what ‘inspiring’ thoughts she may provoke ;)

Until next time guys,

xoxoxoxoxoxoox